Deception seems to be the order of the day these days. Catfish has gone from whiskered fish to the term used to describe a person who creates a fake identity (or identities) on social media and over the phone, usually for the purposes of getting romantic attention or sympathy from the intended victim.
If you missed the documentary of the same name (where the tactic got it's name) you were certainly brought up to speed as the media tried to get to the bottom of the Manti T'eo story this week. He's the star Notre Dame University football play whose grandmother and girlfriend died in the same day, until it was discovered his girlfriend wasn't real, but an alleged elaborate social media relationship hoax perpetrated by Ronaiah Tuiasosopo, an acquaintance of T'eo who posed as the cousin of the fake girlfriend.
Then there's Beyoncé, and the debate over whether she did or didn't lip sync the U.S. national anthem at the Presidential Inauguration. The best evidence we've seen was provided by 20/20, who came to the conclusion that she sang over a backing vocal track. It was their conclusion that she technically lip synced and didn't at the same time.
Hell, there's even a show called
Deception and Dr. Phil is about to release his new book
Life Code, which features the qualities of truly pathological liars called "The Evil Eight." According to Dr. Lillian Glass, a body language expert, "We all lie and if someone tells you they don't, they're lying."
Okay, then how do you spot them? How can you make sure you're getting the truth and catch liars in the act?
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Signs of Deception
How many times has your business or personal life suffered because you trusted the wrong person? If you're like most people, you've been lied to thousands of times.
But you don't have to be a victim. Here are seven subtle cues that often mean a person isn't being completely honest with you.
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Signs of Deception
We have erectile tissues in our noses, which engorge with blood when we lie. This causes a tingling or itching sensation that requires a nose touch to satisfy. The absence of a nose touch doesn't guarantee truth, but the presence of a nose touch often means deception
Signs of Deception
When we lie, we force our brain to pretend that the lie is true, that the truth is a lie and simultaneously remember that the real truth is that each is the other. This process of deception taxes our cognitive ability to think efficiently. So when we lie, we pause longer and speak slower than normal and often experience speech disturbances that serve as gap fillers, such as "um," "er" and "ah."
Signs of Deception
When our words and our body language don't agree, our communication is incongruent. Imagine that you ask a salesman if he can assure your delivery will be on time. If he explains how certain he is about it being on time while also shaking his head--as if non-verbally saying "no"--he is incongruent. When this sort of incongruence occurs, you would do well to believe the person's body over his words.
Signs of Deception
We rub our necks because of the stress we experience when we feel that an obstacle may be insurmountable. Let's say you're interviewing a potential employee and when you explain the expected duties, he also begins to rub his neck . This probably means he doesn't feel he'll be able to accomplish the duties. And if someone believes that they can or can't do something, they're probably right.
Signs of Deception
An eye rub is an indicator of disbelief. Let's say you have an important computer keystroke sequence to teach a new employee. The employee begins to rub her eyes even while verbally affirming your statements. This probably means that she doesn't believe you or disagrees with your instruction. Many subordinates feel uneasy about disagreeing with the boss, but their bodies don't hesitate.
Signs of Deception
We upwardly inflect our words when asking a question. You may have noticed that some salespeople will upwardly inflect certain statements of fact. This is a red flag that should alert you to potential deception. If a salesman upwardly inflects his words, you should disregard this statistic and be suspicious of him altogether.
Signs of Deception
In the study of graphology, hollow letters represent honesty. Anything that disrupts a hollow letter could indicate deception. Pretend you find a note from your top salesman on your desk. His note indicates that he went to visit his sick mother. You notice that every "o" in his note has some sort of mark interjected into the hollow space of each letter. You would be right to be suspicious of the facts in the note.
Signs of Deception
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